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Demonstrating Confidence Gains Confidence

 Demonstrating Confidence Gains Confidence

Goethe on Confidence
 Demonstrating Confidence Gains Confidence

"I affirm that a person will never be able to know himself," - said Goethe.       From the point of view of the monistic concept, any of our emotional experiences is reflected in bodily movements. Moreover, our internal states are not the cause or effect of the corresponding body movements, but coincide with them.       When we are worried, for example, during a public speech, this experience can be expressed in such voluntary body movements as: muscle clamps; unnecessary gestures that do not depend on the spoken words; a running glance, directed not at the eyes of the audience, but wandering along the walls, floor and ceiling; quiet, trembling voice, etc. And also in such involuntary 

(reflex) movements, such as: increased levels of adrenaline and other hormones in the blood, increased heart rate, changes in blood pressure, facial flushing, sweating, changes in pupil diameter, etc. (By the way, with the help of a lie detector, it is precisely these, often outwardly imperceptible, involuntary movements of the body that are detected ).

      It seems that our internal states and the corresponding body movements, like transparency and mountain air, cannot exist separately from each other, since they are one whole. From this we can draw an important conclusion: by

     controlling our bodily movements, we will be able to control the corresponding internal states.

      Of course, it is difficult to control involuntary movements (try, for example, by an effort of will to slow down your heartbeat), but voluntary movements are completely subject to conscious control.

      Therefore, another recipe for increasing self-confidence is: Show signs of confidence, behave confidently, and you will feel confident. First, these signs will need to be controlled consciously, and then they will become a habit and become an integral part of your personality.

      What are these signs? We subconsciously feel them, they are all at a glance. Speech is perceived by two senses - vision and hearing, so one part of the signs of confidence in public speaking is visual, and the other is auditory.

Key Signs of Confidence in Speaking

  1. Visual
    - Posture is correct;
    - Direct gaze (in the eyes), fixed (hold at one point for at least 2 seconds, otherwise it looks like a runner from the side);
    - Free gestures, in sync with words;
    - Lack of unnecessary muscle clamps.

  2. Auditory
    - The voice is loud enough (for the last row of listeners), even. If the voice trembles, turn up the volume a little, and the trembling, as a rule, disappears;
    - Confident tone of voice (from calm to any emotional color);
    - Without frequent hesitation, stuttering, unnecessary pauses. If they appear, slow down, give yourself time to think, and they will disappear.

      This confidence mask is easy to remember. If you always remember about her and use her in public speeches, conversations and any other form of communication, you will soon find that you have become one with her.

      The presentation should not start from the moment you open your mouth to utter the first words, but from the preliminary mood for confident behavior.

So again: show different signs of confidence and you will feel confident.

Written by Felix Kirsanov

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