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Child's self-esteem and confidence

Child's self-esteem and confidence

Child's self-esteem and confidence
Child's self-esteem and confidence

 What is the self-esteem of a confident child?

This is how an individual evaluates himself, his capabilities, actions. We constantly compare ourselves with others, and on the idea of this comparison, we develop an opinion about ourselves, about our capabilities and skills, our character traits, and human qualities. this is often how our self-esteem gradually develops. Adequate self-esteem allows an individual to correlate their strengths with tasks of varied difficulties and therefore the requirements of others. Inadequate (underestimated or overestimated) deforms the inner world, interferes with harmonious development.

Self-esteem begins to develop in infancy. we frequently hear: "You are already so big, but you've got not learned the way to tie your shoelaces (eat porridge, read, etc.)!" Parents don't believe the very fact that it's from their assessments, in the first place, that the child's opinion of himself is formed; later, at college age, he will learn to gauge his opportunities, successes, and failures. it's within the family that the kid learns whether he's loved, whether he's accepted as he's, whether he's amid success or failure.

How does the level of self-esteem (self-confidence) manifest in behavior?

Activity, resourcefulness, cheerfulness, a way of humor, sociability, a desire to form contact - these are the qualities that are characteristic of youngsters with adequate self-esteem. They willingly participate in games, don't take offense if they end up being losers.

Passivity, suspiciousness, increased vulnerability, touchiness are often characteristic of youngsters with low self-esteem. they are doing not want to participate in games, because they're scared of being worse than others, and if they participate in them, they're often offended. Sometimes children who are given a negative assessment within the family seek to catch up on this in communication with their peers. they need to be the primary always and everywhere and take it to heart if they fail.

With high self-esteem, children strive to be better than others in everything. Often you'll hear from such a child: "I am the simplest (strong, beautiful). you ought to all hear me." he's often aggressive with those children who also want to be leaders.

These are, of course, very short descriptions. But maybe a number of you, dear parents, recognized your child?

(test "Ten steps")

Would you like to check how your baby's self-esteem is? This is easy to do with the Ladder test . It has been used since 3 years.

Draw on a bit of paper or cut a 10-rung ladder. Now show it to your child and explain that the worst (angry, envious, etc.) boys and girls are on rock bottom step, a touch better on the second step, even better on the third, and so on. But on the very top step, there are the neatest (good, kind) boys and girls. it's important that the kid correctly understands the situation on the steps, so you'll ask him about it again. Now ask, on what step would he stand? Let him draw himself on this step or put a doll. So you've got completed the task, it remains to conclude.

  • If a child puts himself on the first, second, third steps from the bottom, then he has low self-esteem - uncertainty .
  • If on the 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, then the average (adequate) - confidence.
  • And if it is on the 8th, 9th, 10th, then self-esteem is overestimated - self-confidence.  But for preschool children, self-esteem is considered overestimated if the child constantly puts himself on the 10th step.

  • What to try to do if your child's self-esteem is insufficient (greatly overestimated or underestimated)? Self-esteem can change, especially during preschool years. Every our appeal to the kid, every assessment of his activity, reaction to successes and failures - all this influences the child's attitude to himself. That is, we will help the kid to make adequate self-esteem.

    Tips for folks curious about developing adequate self-esteem to extend their child's self-confidence

    • Do not protect your child from everyday activities, don't seek to unravel all problems for him, but don't overload him. Let the baby help with cleaning, water the flower himself, enjoy what he has done, and well-deserved praise. there's no got to set unbearable tasks for him, that he's simply not mature enough.

    • Don't overpraise your child, but also remember to reward when he deserves it. If the baby has been ready to eat with a spoon for an extended time, there's no got to praise for this whenever, but if he managed to eat neatly, without smearing the porridge everywhere on the table, make certain to mark this achievement.

    • Encourage your child to require initiative.

    • Do not forget that the baby is watching you closely. Show by your example the adequacy of the attitude to success and failure. Compare: "Mom didn't make a cake, well, nothing, next time we'll put more flour" / "Horror! The cake didn't work! I'll never bake again!"

    • Don't compare your child to other children. Compare it with yourself (what it had been yesterday or is going to be tomorrow).

    • Do not be afraid to love your child and show him your love!

    Games which will assist you to get to understand your child better, form and maintain adequate self-esteem in him

    "Name and Self Confidence"

    You can invite your child to return up with a reputation that he would like to possess or keep his own. Ask why he doesn't like or like his name, why he would like to be called differently. This game can provide additional information about the toddler's self-esteem. After all, often abandoning his name means the kid is dissatisfied with himself or wants to be better, as he's now.

    "Playing situations and self-confidence"

    The child is obtainable situations during which he must portray himself. Situations are often different, invented, or taken from the lifetime of a toddler. Other roles within the enactment are played by one among the oldsters or other children. Sometimes it's helpful to modify roles. samples of situations:

    - You took part in the competition and won first place, and your friend was almost the last. he's very upset, please help him to settle down.

    - Mom brought 3 oranges, you and your sister (brother), how will you share them? Why?

    - the blokes from your group within the d / s are playing a stimulating game, and you're late, the sport has already begun. Ask to be accepted into the sport. what is going to you are doing if the youngsters don't need to simply accept you? (This game will help your child learn effective behaviors and use them in the real world .)

    "Blind man's buff and self-confidence "

    Do not be surprised, this old, well-known game is extremely useful: it'll help your child to desire a pacesetter, which, if successful, can significantly affect self-esteem. you'll play the classic "Blind Man's Buff" (blindfolded "blind man's buff" looks for youngsters by voice and guesses by touch who it is); you'll put a bell within the hands of youngsters, etc.

    "Mirror and self-worth "

    This game is often played alongside a toddler or with several children. the kid looks at a "mirror" that repeats all his movements, gestures, facial expressions. The "mirror" is often a parent or another child. you'll portray not yourself, but somebody else, the "Mirror" must guess, then switch roles. the sport helps the kid to open up, to feel more free, uninhibited.

    You can play both "Hide and Seek" and "Shop", and just magnify the balloons, who is quicker. the most thing is that the kid successfully copes with the tasks and learns to play with dignity.

    Olga Anisimovich

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